Nila is a freelance journalist and Clinical Psychology Doctoral student…
No one does romance like Bollywood, but ever stop to think of how Bollywood heroes and heroine’s express their love? American author and radio talk show host Dr. Gary Chapman has the answers to the language of love.
Dr. Chapman is the creator of ‘The Five Love Languages’ series, a concept that provides a deeper understanding of human behavior within relationships and how people view the actions of their partner. By understanding someone’s “love language,” and your own, you can open up communication in any relationship—something Bollywood films struggle with.
There are five ways that you can express and perceive love depending on your “love language.” Dr. Chapman has broken down these languages into 5 categories: words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time, and physical touch. Every Bollywood hero has his own language of love, check out our list to find out which Bollywood hunk speaks your language of love!
Words of Affirmation
If your love language is words of affirmation, that means you pay close attention to what and how someone speaks to you. Verbal expression of love is vital in making you feel love and it’s also how you express love to others. For this language of love, people need encouragement, and appreciation. Try giving them a surprise love note to make them feel special.
The first Bollywood hero that comes to mind for this love language is Saif Ali Khan’s Rohit in “Kal Ho Na Ho.” Granted that many times it was Shah Rukh Khan’s character, Aman, who told him what to say with his “6 din ladki in” scheme to get the girl, but Rohit consistently expressed his love and affection for Naina (Preity Zinta) throughout the film.
Did you know gifts are also a love language? Who doesn’t love gifts? For some, gifts are the main way they express and perceive love. Now, this isn’t to say that they are materialistic, it may not have to be an expensive gift but it has to be a meaningful one.
Salman Khan is known for his lavish acts of love so its no surprise even his characters are gift-giving, big-hearted lovers. In “Prem Ratan Dhan Payo” the wholesome and lively theater actor, Prem Dilwale brought all types of gifts, from sweets to jewelry, for his love, the Princess Maithali, played by Sonam Kapoor. He’s so intense about his gifts, the man even sang a song about it.
Acts of Service
For someone who’s love language is acts of service, actions speak louder than words. Try to help them lighten their workload by going out of your way to help with chores. For acts of service, show these lovers that you’re working to make them and the people important to them feel loved. Again, no need to go all out, small actions like making them breakfast can be effective.
There is no Bollywood hero better known for his service than Shah Rukh Khan’s Raj in “Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge.” He not only takes care of Simran throughout their Europe trip but also turns up in India to win over Simran’s family. He spends time with her dictator of a father and helps her mom with chores around the house, quite a lot of work for love, no?
Quality time is a love language most people understand, but for some, it’s more important than other aspects of a relationship. Having uninterrupted, focused conversations, spending one-on-one time with your loved one leads to special moments that mean a lot to people who’s love language is quality time. For these individuals, having your undivided attention is vital, so don’t spend your time together scrolling social media.
Shahid Kapoor and Kareena Kapoor Khan as Aditya and Geet are the epitome of a couple whose love language is the quality time in the film “Jab We Met.” Their long journey home and Aditya’s efforts to bring back the lively old Geet results in some quality time together.
A physical touch is a non-verbal form of language that is used to show love. Actions like hugs, kissing, cuddling, holding hands or even just placing a hand on the small of her back or around his waist are ways the other person feels loved.
Is it any surprise which Bollywood hunk’s language of love is physical touch? Emraan Hashmi! This Bollywood hero has always been about showing love through physical touch in literally every film, and we’re not complaining!
Nila is a freelance journalist and Clinical Psychology Doctoral student who was born and raised in New York City. There is very little she loves more than Harry Potter marathons, pizza, 90s Bollywood, bagels, falooda, and her family. She hopes to use her powers for good by spreading mental health awareness and positivity in the South Asian community through her love of writing.